Well-being and Mental Health

With Dr Rosie Gilderthorp

Mental health relates to our emotions, our thoughts and feelings, our ability to solve problems and overcome difficulties, our social connections, and our understanding of the world around us. Not everyone will struggle with mental illness, but everyone will struggle or have challenges with their mental well-being.

For our exclusive wellbeing and mental health series, we have worked with Clinical Psychologist, Dr Rosie Gilderthorp. A military spouse, mother, innovator and changing the conversation around mental health.

“In a world full of doing, doing, doing, it's important to take a moment to just breathe, to just be”


Guilt & Shame; The Most Painful Emotions

In her 6th and final blog, Dr Rosie talks about guilt and shame. Two of the most painful emotions for a working military spouse. Rosie explains how we can face it, and overcome the emotions that can be almost overwhelming.

When life & work collide

In her 5th blog, Dr Rosie explores when life and work collide, when you need to have difficult conversations & try to be understood. By following Rosie's simple plan, you can come away knowing you have behaved with integrity & compassion.

Dealing With Panic Attacks

In blog 4, Dr Rosie talks about panic attacks...why they happen, how they can affect us and how to balance, breathe and restore yourself. There are case studies and solutions on how to cope when panic attacks.

Mindfulness at Work

Be the best you

In her 3rd exclusive well-being blog, Dr Rosie Gilderthorp explores mindfulness at work. At times, anxiety, feelings of isolation and being overwhelmed can stop you working effectively. But Rosie introduces some great mindful techniques to get you over the rough patches.

Mindfulness

Give yourself a choice

Dr Rosie introduces mindfulness - what it is and what it isn't. How to practice it and how it can bring you a calm in order to make the right decisions. This is part 2 of a series of 6 blogs on mental well-being.

Anxiety

What it is & how to balance it

Dr Rosie talks about anxiety. Anxiety is part of everyday life but it's how to ensure you don't let it overwhelm you or manifest itself in a negative way. This is part 1 of a series of 6 blogs on mental well-being.

Protecting your mental health

For life in the military

Normal life brings with it the normal stress, juggle and rollercoaster of emotions. But add in military life - deployments, frequent moves, diverse communities and you have a cocktail of some high level triggers. But there are ways to ensure you protect your mental health and ensure you are balanced, calm and happy.

Role Changes In A Relationship

Change can be scary, but it doesn't have to be ...

Anytime you gain something you lose something. If you take a new job you lose time at home, you lose your role as a fulltime carer (whether you liked or disliked it), you lose whatever label you gave yourself around being at home. For example, “stay at home mum/dad, supportive wife/partner/husband etc.” The identity and roles of your family members also change...

Why Do We Judge Each Other?

In our attempt to try and keep ourselves in favour with our pack we also turn the voice of judgement on ourselves when we feel threatened. We examine everything we do to check if we are breaking social rules and risking exclusion and we speak to ourselves very harshly if we detect that we are falling short of an invisible standard...

How To Deal With Our Judge-y Friends

The good news is that once we realise why people are really judging us, and why we are saying such mean things to ourselves, the judgements kind of lose their power. For example, if you are planning to return to work after being at home, supporting your spouse, you might well be having some judgemental thoughts about yourself as a partner or a mother. You might also encounter some other people who judge you for taking on employment...

Interview Jitters ... Be Gone!

Have you ever turned up to a job interview already apologising in your head for the military lifestyle?

Have you ever felt yourself going red when asked about your five-year plan?

Does just the thought of being in that situation fill you with dread?

How To Deal With A Difficult Employer

Me: “I’m so sorry, my daughter needs to be picked up from nursery again… I have to go straight away”

Them: “Again? Why can’t your mum pick her up this time?”

Sound familiar at all?

Happy spouses

Recruit for Spouses found us someone who was far and above the expectations we had hoped for and would always recommend, and recruit from them in future.

5

Mark Moseley, Director PestGone Environmental

I was able to secure a permanent position due to the experience I gained through the Liquid Workforce and I am very grateful I was allowed to be part of it.

5

Melanie de Klerk

‘I was very impressed with the quality and depth of talent that RFS can provide to employers across many types of role. I have no doubt (they) will be a huge asset to any employer working in digital marketing, social media marketing and associated roles’.

5

Andy Mihalop, Head of Channel Partner Marketing EMEA - Facebook

They helped me free up important time to work on my business by finding me a fantastic, dedicated, kind and communicative administrative assistant.

5

Emily Foster

RFS was...a platform for spouses who understood my struggles and my challenges. It felt like I came to them in pieces, deflated and very defeated and they (RFS) pieced me back together.

5

Rusila Halofaki

RFS are offering an amazing, unique opportunity in the Liquid Workforce within the recruitment world...so many doors can be opened.

5

Kate Legg

Don't give up, amazing and flexible companies do exist and RFS are 100% the best people to help you find them.

5

Amie Hills Grey

RFS was and is the only platform that exists that really understands the struggles and plight of every Armed Forces spouse.

5

Rusila Halofaki

The competency amongst the military spouse community is unbelievably good and the fact all our candidates were happy with remote working made this ideal for us as a small business.

5

Michael Coates, COMBAT pest control

I found the course to be an excellent refresher of the skills I used in my previous roles, and also a confidence booster to me, proving that I can do it again

5

Melody Davies, Liquid Workforce

Helpful? It has been so much more. It has given me confidence and self-belief as well as motivation and inspiration.

5

B. Barber, Military Spouse

This experience has been more than helpful. It has been, in many ways, life changing.

5

B. Barber, Military Spouse